Dark Coffee Podcast
76. How to handle difficult times when you feel powerless

76. How to handle difficult times when you feel powerless

February 4, 2021

It would be an understatement to say that we've all struggled over the past year. But how can we keep pushing through difficult times when we're already feeling tired, overwhelmed or fed up?

 

Today, Alice (briefly) explains the science behind our survival instinct, why we should make friends with it, but also why we shouldn't let it sit in the drivers' seat for too long.

 

Also discussed:

 

  • how keeping focused on small changes can help steady us in changeable times
  • how our success and wellbeing lies in our everyday habits
  • how to activate our calming nervous system to help us relax and plan our next steps
  • why peer support systems are so important for our wellbeing, especially in times of high stress
  • how talking to fear as if it's a friend can be surprisingly helpful in gaining control of the situation
  • how self-compassion can help us with our mental health
  • how we have the autonomy and power to change the way we self-regulate, and that we can push through hard times.

Recorded January 2021

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                            

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

Podcast presented and edited by Alice Lyons.

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. Free helpline available round the clock. Text - 116123.  Call - 08457 909090  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Mind: Support and information for anyone suffering from a mental health issue. 0300 123 3393 Website - Mind.org.uk

 

Saneline: Practical information, crisis care and emotional support to people affected by mental health concerns. Helpline: 0845 767 8000, open daily from 6pm – 11pm.

 

75. A Christmas Pep-Talk

75. A Christmas Pep-Talk

December 22, 2020

In this week’s festive episode, host Alice Lyons aims to give a pep-talk ahead of Christmas, discussing how the year has been and how we should all be congratulated on it!

(Grace would like to clarify she did not request a Christmas episode be pre-recorded in November, she requested it be recorded in real time – a classic example of miscommunication and very representative of the year that is 2020!)

Also discussed:

(1:09) Intro

(2:00) A big well done on this year, the ways people have changed and moved around this year in terms of priorities and relationships

(04:59) What we need to hear, however our year may have gone, how you can lose sight of where you are sometimes in busier times

(08:43) Bringing your full self to interactions even when it’s online, mindfulness and quiet, the expectations that come with Christmas to be everywhere with everyone

(13:35) Thinking about things like the type of music you listen to and the way it affects your mood, the urgency associated with interaction this year

(18:37) How going from very minimal social contact to lots of it can be detrimental, how your physicality and mental state are linked

(20:34) Boundaries and how they can help you in the Christmas period, using time with yourself as a calendar activity to plan boundaries, the necessity of rest

(24:06) Closing comments, self-care and how difficult it can be

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

74. Self-Care Isn’t Easy

74. Self-Care Isn’t Easy

December 8, 2020

In this week’s (half pep-talk, half lovingly telling you off) episode, host Alice Lyons talks about how self-care isn’t easy, particularly with everything going on this year.

Primarily talking about how self-care isn’t a perk, as well as the fact employee wellbeing isn’t a perk, this episode talks about the difficulties of looking after yourself.

Also discussed:

(1:28) Introduction: how wellbeing and self-care are viewed as perks, particularly in the workplace, and how we all have a right to be treated well instead of being left to fill in the gaps due to inadequate assistance, ‘human first, employee second’ approach

(7:26) How self-care is difficult as we aren’t brought up to do so, particularly since mental health is avoided in society, the impact of the society/culture we grow up in

(9:11) The difficulties of managing physical and emotional health with the day-to-day challenges, how we can lose energy in different areas due to neglect

(12:12) How we can train ourselves – teaching ourselves (personal development, self-help resources), taking an honest look at what we are and aren’t happy with, how the clarity can help avoid issues with other areas in your life

(14:42) Using self-care before a point of crisis/burnout, building it as a fundamental foundation, some strategies for help such as looking to your support network, going to different people for different needs

(22:20) Being the person that people go to for advice and how it can be difficult, and how referring people onto someone better suited can be beneficial, the benefits of collective approaches

(25:28) Final thoughts: how we need to stop being so harsh towards ourselves for low moods

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

73. 4 reasons to get a coach

73. 4 reasons to get a coach

December 3, 2020

A question from one of our lovely followers sparked this week's episode. Our host Alice Lyons explains what coaching actually is, the difference between coaching and therapy and four reasons why you should consider getting one.

Also discussed: 

(01:20) introduction

(02:28) The first reason to get a coach is to upskill yourself. Coaching is a very specific kind of relationship that can help you reach your goals. Your coach may have worked with someone who’s had the same goals as you before, therefore have experience in said area.

(03:38) Alice explains how coaching and mentorship differs. Mentors will normally make connections for you with people in their own network and personally assist you. Where as coaches draw the answers out of you on how to best reach your goals during your sessions. 

(05:58) Coaches will often ask challenging questions. Admittedly, this can be incredibly uncomfortable. However, these difficult and personal questions can often lead to the answers you are seeking.

(08:09) The second reason to get a coach is to assist you in dealing with growing pains. Coaching sessions can be exhausting, it’s not always going to be fun and easy. Personal growth can be extremely challenging. However, looking at yourself and realising the best way to adapt your future behaviour can be extremely useful and freeing.

(14:22) How coaching and therapy/counselling differ. Therapy and coaching can work well together, particularly if you want to understand the underlying reasons for certain ways you think or feel. However, this cannot be done through coaching and must be explored in a safe environment with a qualified counselling practitioner. Coaching can be useful for both personal (e.g. setting boundaries) and professional development, reaching certain goals and how to get there.

(20:02) The third reason to get a coach is if you need accountability to reach your goals. Motivation is all well and good initially, but we find that this leaves quite quickly, which is where your coach will come in. When we’re paying someone to help us on our journey and have weekly check-ins, we’re less likely to become distracted and drop our goals.

(25:43) The fourth reason to get a coach is emotional support. When we give all our energy to other people, for example if you’re a manager or a parent, you may feel that you yourself are lacking support and dedication. Coaches can offer this dedicated support in your sessions to you and your goals.

(29:25) Closing comments.

 

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

72. Mental Health Mythbusting

72. Mental Health Mythbusting

December 2, 2020

Join our host, Alice Lyons, as she tackles the frustrating and, at times, dangerous myths that plague the mental health conversation. Alice also offers some key points to consider surrounding the language we use when discussing mental health topics.

 

Also discussed: 

 

(00:56) Introduction to the episode. 

 

(03:01) Mental health myth number one: ‘the broken brain’. The ignorant idea that all mental health illnesses are due to something going ‘wrong’ in the brain, thus ignoring all possible societal and economic issues that may be contributing to a poor state of mental health. Alice focuses on a more holistic approach from the biopsychosocial model. 

 

(08:39) Mental health myth number two: suicide is solely a male issue. Male suicide rates are alarmingly high and are a massive problem in the UK that we all need to tackle. We need to look at our society, the messages that men receive and what their home life is like. However, suicide attempts are higher in women. This generally seems to be due to the different methods chosen, for example women choose slower acting methods and therefore have a better chance of successful emergency medical intervention. 

 

(12:46) Alice discusses the importance of shining a light on all suicide, including those from the LGBTQ+ community. In particular trans suicide rates are extremely high, yet largely excluded from the suicide conversation. 

 

(14:25) Mental health myth number three: can’t we just be more positive? Although this comes from a good place, this mentality can be dangerous. If we are always positive we are neglecting a large part of the human experience. Negative emotions are normal. We should be able to effectively process and express our emotions.

 

(19:56) Alice briefly talks about the workshops and coaching plans she has on offer and the limited spaces that are left (so get in there quickly)!  

There will be some new exciting group coaching programmes coming out in the new year. You can gain priority access through signing up to our newsletter, which can be found on our website. 

 

(23:26) Mental health myth number four: “I’ve never struggled with my mental health personally”. As a society, we have created a myth that mental health is solely associated with disorders and illnesses. For some reason we ignore the basics. How do we deal with stress, heartache and maintaining our wellbeing? This is all to do with our mental health. 

 

(28:08) Mental health myth number five: mental health is a bad thing. Very much tied into the previous point, we seem to think that mental health is all doom and gloom! Mental health can be positive, we can build each other up and give people the knowledge and skills to help them feel their best more often. These are very much the ideas that the field of positive psychology promote, the importance of playing to our strengths rather than focusing on our ‘weaknesses’. 

 

(32:51) Closing comments. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

71. Practical Advice for Managing Stress

71. Practical Advice for Managing Stress

November 10, 2020

In this week’s episode, host Alice Lyons gives some practical advice around managing stress as the UK is currently in its second lockdown and winter is upon us. Alice gives 4 tips for managing stress, including wallowing, prioritising your wellbeing, protecting your energy and reaching out.

Also discussed:

(01:49) Brief intro

(02:42) Tip number 1 – Wallow: how powering through can be detrimental in the long-term, the build up of negative feelings, why it’s better to feel in the moment, toxic positivity

(10:08) Tip number 2 – Prioritise your wellbeing: finding time for yourself that is personal to you, how prioritising wellbeing can positively influence sleep, how important humour is

(16:56) Tip number 3 – Protect your energy: splitting your life into segments and how some areas can take greater priority, thinking about the areas where you might lose energy, setting boundaries to protect energy

(21:26) Tip number 4 – Reach out: making sure you have a good group of people around you rather than relying on one person

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

70. Pain, Pleasure and Peace

70. Pain, Pleasure and Peace

October 22, 2020

Hello! Welcome to our 70th episode! We hope you're as excited as we are. In this episode our host Alice Lyons, discusses pain, pleasure and peace and how a book she's currently reading has both completely blown her mind and inspired her in so many ways. 

Also discussed:

(1:30) Introduction to the episode

(1:59) Alice has found the secret to wellbeing after reading 'The Compassionate Mind' by Paul Gilbert, discussing the theory and original researcher behind it

(3:34) Discussing the 3 main drives that influence our behaviour, explaining what they mean and where they originate from

(5:15) Explaining the soothing and contentment system in more depth and how important it is that we activate this to achieve that feeling of complete wellbeing

(7:41) How can we get a sense of peace in our lives? Alice discusses the barriers to this and how our modern lifestyles can get in the way 

(11:15) Alice explains how journaling helps her process her emotions and problems in a calm way

(12:12) Talking will always be so effective for externalising our issues and how working through them with a listener can really help us deal with our pain

(13:48) “often, the things that we want are not what we need” - for example the pleasure-seeking part of our brains may tell us to keep eating chocolate even if we’re full because it can sometimes provide us with some form of comfort

(15:15) Learning how to be compassionate with ourselves and others is a practice. No one is expected to nail this first time, but it’s important to keep trying because we deserve to give ourselves compassion

(16:56) Following the Buddhist principle that knowing we will suffer in life and we should expect this. This does not mean a significant amount of suffering! However, we should expect obstacles throughout life and expecting everything to be perfect puts an unnecessary and unbearable burden on ourselves

(19 09) Concluding thoughts 

(20:25) Discussing Dark Coffee, upcoming events, exciting workshops and the new website (which we highly encourage you to check out!)

 

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

69. We All Have a Part To Play In the Mental Health Discussion

69. We All Have a Part To Play In the Mental Health Discussion

October 15, 2020

Join our host Alice Lyons, as she discusses the role we should all play in the mental health discussion, no matter our profession. The pandemic has taught us a lot of lessons, particularly that what we were doing before, might not be enough, and that’s okay. We can move forwards together.

Also discussed:

(01:15) Introduction to the episode

(02:58) We may not be educated in the field of psychology or qualified counsellors, but we don’t need to be to talk about our feelings and go for a coffee

(05:00) Alice discusses what mental health means to her and how we can positively build up our mental health, which doesn’t have to be the extreme of crisis intervention

(07:25) The importance of (free) conversations, especially for workplaces. This includes authentic communication and bringing more of who we are into work

(11:50) Dissection of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and how we can all use this in everyday life

(13:49) Growing our confidence on how to be a part of the conversation and how picking from your skill set, personality and natural talents can create possible roles for you to play in your workplace 

(18:20) Concluding what parts we can all play in the mental health conversation, before anyone may need crisis intervention. The pandemic has taught us that our mental health is always in a state of flux and how we can deal with this

(22:30) What to do if you feel there are gaps in your knowledge and reading recommendations

(25:37) We shouldn’t just think about the worst-case scenario, people should focus on wellbeing and mental health now

(26:48) Closing comments

 

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

 

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                           

 

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

 

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

Mind: Information and signposting service around mental health conditions. We're open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday (except for bank holidays). Infoline: 0300 123 3393 | Email: info@mind.org.uk | Text: 86463

68. 4 Self Care Strategies for Building Resilience

68. 4 Self Care Strategies for Building Resilience

October 1, 2020

This week's solo episode follows host Alice Lyons as she gives 4 self care strategies for building resilience, covering the pandemic transition, the importance of reflection, the role of technology and how you can build your strength.

Also discussed:

 

(00:55) Introduction to the episode

(03:10) Weakness, discussing what we perceive as our weaknesses which are actually our strengths

(05:59) Pandemic transition, reflection on our current lives, asking ourselves important yet exhausting questions

(08:05) Acknowledging how well we are all doing this year, not focusing on criticism as there are many lessons to take from this year so far

(10:54) The four things that will support you in building your strength: sleep, silence, socialising and simplifying, beginning with sleep as tip 1, how to create a restful environment by minimising screen time and caffeine 

(12:03) Silence, how life can be noisy due to increased connection via technology, small changes such as not listening to a podcast whilst jogging and just taking in the sounds of nature

(15:41) Simplification, less is more, discussing the losses we feel since COVID, how calm can come from stripping away things that no longer work for you

(18:20) The final tip - Socialising and how it can alleviate the fear 

(20:10) Closing comments

 

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Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.

 

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

 

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.

 

Join the conversation by sharing this episode, subscribing to the podcast or following Alice across social media:

 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alicelyons/

Instagram: @dark.coffee.wellbeing                            

 

Dark Coffee provide mental health training for SME’s and professionals. To find out more, take a look at our website or get in touch: www.darkcoffee.co.uk

 

Your reviews will help Dark Coffee reach more people. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a review to help spread the conversation further.

 

Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
Call - 116123.  Email -  jo@samaritans.org. Website - www.samaritans.org

 

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM)
Practical information, crisis care, suicide prevention and emotional support for men,  Helpline: 0800 58 58 58 Open daily from 5pm - 11pm | Webchat: thecalmzone.net/help/webchat

 

NHS 111 Service
Offer urgent mental health signposting.
Call 111 Open all day every day 
Visit 111.nhs.uk

 

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67. The Nuance of Mental Health

67. The Nuance of Mental Health

September 2, 2020

Today’s episode is with Vikas Shah MBE, a serial-entrepreneur and philanthropist, having started his first technology business at age 14 and currently CEO of Swiscot Group.

Talking around his own experiences with mental health, how the discussion around mental health isn’t nuanced enough for such a complicated topic and the differences in the approach to public health issues versus access to mental health treatment.

Also discussed:

(02:03) Introduction to Vikas

(3:17) Vikas’ experience with speaking about his mental health, how it linked to entrepreneurship, his TedX talk and the impact it has had on people, how mental health can become a defining part of your journey

(9:57) ‘The victim narrative’, and how it isn’t productive and how it can be self-perpetuating, how the discussions have changed and evolved, speakers versus advocates/activists, being critical in our approach to mental health

(18:17) The importance of story-telling in combination with vital information, how public health topics such as cancer are approached in a very linear way in terms of accessing treatment and help in comparison to the complications of mental health, being seen as a social issue rather than a health one

(23:35) The language around mental health and how it can be too aggressive or disempowering, suicide ideation and the challenges around it, demystifying suicide and the long-lasting impact of failed suicide attempts

(32:31) How suicide ideation can seem like self-care in a way, the outdated perception of mental health issues only occurring after a huge event in all cases, how we might not have the language to speak of mental health which can contribute to the taboo

(39:12) The absence of nuance around mental health discussions, how we build resilience through mental health issues

(43:01) Vikas’s thoughts after his suicide attempt and the changes he felt he needed to make afterwards, early intervention versus treatment and demystifying medication

(48:10) Therapy and therapists and how it varies person to person, how the approach to mental health isn’t clear enough in terms of what we can and can’t do and ask, approaching topics from a health perspective rather than avoiding the topic

(58:55) How we’re bad at admitting when we’re wrong and how we struggle to say things in an appropriate manner with sensitive topics with nuance, the narrative needing changing and how we need a better approach to such a complicated issue

(01:07:33) Tick-boxing and a one size fits all approach, tokenism in mental health, how the last thing you want to do is speak to someone but it’s one of the only options you have, the lack of support into mental health services

(1:12:50) Closing comments - how we can become better at managing our mental health and how we can take action

 

Vikas’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vikasshahlinkedin/

Vikas’s Website: https://vikas.work/

 

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations - UK

 

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. 
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